Death is an integral part of life, and according to Christian belief,
it is the transition from earthly, temporary life to heavenly eternal life.
When a death occurs - the relatives of the deceased face many problems. In addition to understandable, emotional shock, stress, there are many doubts that are even greater if death occurred suddenly. So here are just some general indications, namely, what should be done in accordance with the Christian and folk tradition
Relatives and closest friends should be informed about the death first, and then they will inform other acquaintances. In that way, the news spread very quickly among acquaintances. As a rule, the closest ones immediately come to the house of the deceased to be at the hand of the family of the deceased. Then you should bring coffee and a drink because it can happen, especially if the death is sudden, that there is not enough of it in the house. Whoever is able, should immediately offer the family money, as a loan, until the funeral is over. Death does not choose time and that is why friendly solidarity is necessary. It is important to remember that a competent priest is needed on time, that is, as soon as possible, inform about the day, place and time of the funeral.
Black is a sign of grief and she gets dressed as soon as possible, and necessarily must be had for burial. Black is worn by the closest relatives (children, daughters-in-law, grandchildren, brothers, sisters). Black does not have to be newly purchased, but appropriate things are separated from the wardrobe.
Close friends, co-workers and those who have spent a lot of time with they come home before the funeral to express their condolences to the family. Usually a bottle of drinks and coffee is brought and words of condolence are uttered. He sat in the house for a short time, served himself coffee and drinks, and then left. They usually leave when new acquaintances come, in order to avoid the crowds. This does not apply to those who have special responsibilities and who help families with funerals. If someone can't come home, as well as those who don't belong to a wider circle of friends, he comes to the funeral and there, before the service begins, he expresses his condolences to the family. If someone is outside their place of residence, or is on the road, so he is not able to personally express his condolences, it is customary to send a telegram.
The family should be in the chapel, next to the coffin with the deceased one hour before the funeral. The family is in black and stands to the right, observed from the front door of the chapel. There is a candle holder above the head of the deceased. Candles of family members should burn there. Those who come will approach each family member and express their condolences. According to Orthodox custom, only a candle is carried to the deceased. Today, it is common to bring wreaths and flowers. The Orthodox Church does not prescribe that, it is even against it.
For the burial ceremony, a panaya, a bottle of wine and a bottle of mixed wine and oil should be prepared. According to the folk custom, the panaya is not prepared in the house of the deceased, but outside it she is being prepared by an older woman, that is, who has no intention of having children.
The priest will arrive at the scheduled time to hold the service. Somewhere the funeral is performed over an open coffin, and somewhere over a closed coffin. After the service, the priest will invite everyone present to the last kiss. On that occasion, the suitcase can be opened, but it does not have to. In the second case, it kisses a cross located on the coffin and a place on the coffin where the head of the deceased is located. The last kissing of the deceased was done first by the family, and then by all those present at the funeral.
Burial is performed in designated places - cemeteries. On the grave, as a rule, one of your closest friends says a few words about the deceased, and then the coffin is lowered into the tomb. It is customary to cross oneself on that occasion, throw a handful of earth in the grave and say: "Easy earth for him!" Cremation is not a Christian custom, but the church approves of it out of respect for the wishes of the deceased, provided that the priest will perform the service before the act of cremation.
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